Christian Psychologist
Got a life puzzle?
Psychologist with a Theology Degree
Two Instincts
Life Instinct: a force for survival and propagation, encompassing sexual drives, self-preservation, and basic needs like thirst and hunger
Death instinct: a fundamental, unconscious drive in all living beings toward self-destruction and a return to an earlier, inanimate state
- Beyond The Pleasure Principle, Freud, 1920
Be fruitful and multiply
From dust you come, to dust you shall return
- Genesis 1, 3
Revised Standard Version
Three Temptations
3 The devil said to him, “If you are the Son of God, command this stone to become bread.” 4 And Jesus answered him, “It is written, ‘Man shall not live by bread alone.’”
6 and said to him, “To you I will give all this authority and their glory; for it has been delivered to me, and I give it to whom I will.... 7 If you, then, will worship me, it shall all be yours.” 8 And Jesus answered him, “It is written, ‘You shall worship the Lord your God, and him only shall you serve.’”
on the pinnacle of the temple, and said to him, “If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down from here; ... 12 And Jesus answered him, “It is said, ‘You shall not tempt the Lord your God.’”
- Luke 4
Revised Standard Version
0-3 months: awareness of need gratification, hunger for pleasure, lack of distinction between subjective and objective worlds.
4-12 months: thinking people are either "all-good" or "all-bad". Desire to merge with "all-good" and fear of "all-bad"
1-3 years: need to see the "gleam in parent's eye" to develop self-confidence and object constancy.
- Preoedipal Child Development, Psychoanalysis and Hypnosis, Erika Fromm 1996
Four Stages of Love
Love of Self
Man loves himself for all his pleasures and will. Three concupiscences: loving oneself as an end in itself
Love God for Self
Man begins to love God when he becomes aware of his own misery. He realises he needs divine help to escape it.
Love God for Himself
While turning to God out of need, the soul soon begins to feel that living with God is sweet: she begins to love Him for Himself, alternating between self-interested love and pure, disinterested love.
Love of self for God
One loves God with disinterested love, so one loves oneself only for God's sake: "Iste est tertius amoris gradus, quo jam propter se ipsum Deus diligitur. Felix qui meruit ad quartum usque pertingere, quatenus nec seipsum diligat homo nisi propter Deum"
- On Loving God, Bernard of Clairvaux, 12th Century
Love of Self
A person loves him or herself only for one's sense of well-being, gratification, and pleasure. The pleasure principle dominates the mind.
Love other people for oneself
A person becomes aware of the limitations in oneself. One takes pleasure in other people for their similarities to oneself and seeks help from others to avoid unpleasure.
Love other people for other people
A person no longer resents the demarcations between oneself and others. One develops a sense of admiration and enthusiasm, while also maintaining positive self-esteem and self-confidence
Love oneself for other people
A person learns to sacrifice for the love of other people, to be the object of other people's love. Such as being a good husband for one's wife, looking after one's health to provide for one's children, learning to be a good person to be children's role model.
- My psychological interpretation of St Bernard.
Cum in amplexu et osculo Patris et Filii, mediam quodam modo se invenit beata conscientia. - The Mystical Theology of St Bernard, Etienne Gilson
My Beginning
My journey into psychology was born on my 8th birthday with a set of children's encyclopaedias as a present, which kept me company on lonely evenings. The sections about philosophy and psychology left their imprints.
Through the teen years and early 20s, I enjoyed the beauty and elegance of physics and mathematics, but also struggled with unknowable emptiness and depression, until:
I crossed the threshold of a Cistercian monastery and found peace. Its humility cured my restlessness, and its stability calmed my angst. My life started a conversation with Life Itself.
Wuyuan Antony-John Jia
BPsych(Hons), GradDipTheol, GradDipPsych, BEd, BSc, Cert III Aged Care
Our Services
Loading days...
1 hr
- Available OnlineRead More
You are free to discuss anything. Featuring psychometric tests such as MMPI-2/3, Rorschach, etc.
1 hr
160 Australian dollars - Available OnlineRead More
You are free to discuss anything. Featuring psychometric tests such as MMPI-2/3, Rorschach, etc.
1 hr
190 Australian dollars 1 hr 30 min
250 Australian dollars1 hr
Dscs in OpenOffice1 hr
190 Australian dollars